Here are some warning signs I found on Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s website…
The following checklist may help you decide if you or someone you know is being abused.
Does your partner…
- constantly criticize you and your abilities as a spouse/partner, parent or employee?
- behave in an over-protective manner or become extremely jealous?
- threaten to hurt you, your children, pets, family members, friends or himself?
- prevent you from seeing family or friends?
- get suddenly angry or "lose his temper"?
- destroy personal property or throw things around?
- deny you access to family assets like bank accounts, credit cards, or the car, or control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
- use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children?
- hit, punch, slap, kick, shove, choke or bite you?
- prevent you from going where you want to, when you want to, and with whomever you want to?
- make you have sex when you don't want to or do things sexually that you don't want to do?
- humiliate or embarrass you in front of other people?
It you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be a victim of domestic violence. You are not to blame and you are not alone – millions of women are abused by their partners every year. In any case, you need not face domestic violence alone. You deserve help, and help is available by calling 1-888-774-2900.
Domestic violence does not discriminate against anyone at any age: men, women, teens and children. Tell us your story. Do you know someone affected by domestic violence? Were you a victim of domestic violence? This is a safe place for you to be open, so hopefully we can help others and save a life.